The internet streets were, at one point, awash with stories about one especially vocal blogger. He seemed to have a particular disdain for single moms, whom he categorically tended to blame for their parenting status. Fast forward, and the gossip mills came alive. The gentleman, it was purported, was actually the product of a single mom. It seems she did not reveal this pertinent information to him, and the man he called father did not share any genetics with him. Whether this story is true or not, is open for discussion. One thing that stands out, though, is the disdain the fellow had for single moms. Now, here is where it gets interesting, he is not an isolated case. A simple stroll down the internet streets will expose you to a barrage of ‘less than nice’ things aimed at these ladies. Many men get unsolicited advice to keep away from pursuing or marrying single moms . Well, this may seem controversial, but that may not be the worst bit of advice. Do you want to know why? Simple response really, she may simply be too much for you. Yes, take a second to read that again. Single Mom Statistics Let’s just throw in some crucial statistics before we go into why she may be too much for you. A Gallup report shows that Sub-Saharan Africa is leading at 32% when it comes to single moms globally. Next on the list is Latin America at 30% and U.S./Canada at 19%. Closer to home, there has been a significant increase in the number of single mothers registering births. In 2021 the figure stood at 13.5%, and within a year reached 13.9%. As you can see, single mom homes are on the rise, and if the trends are anything to go by, will not end any time soon. So what does it mean for the men who may want to pursue them? Woman hugging her son You Will Never Be Number One in Her Life My kids will always come first, says Grace, a single mother of two. That is the first thing I tell any man who shows an interest in me. Unless in very rare cases, the single, committed mom will always place her child/children before anyone else. If you can’t get comfortable with that simple fact, keep it moving. If you want to do anything with her, factor in the kids as well. Expect plenty of cancelled dates, last-minute plan changes, and plenty of compromising, because of those little people. If You Have a Weak Character, She May Emasculate You I dated a single mom and quickly came to the realization that she did not need me. Indeed I felt like that spare tire that is only occasionally used, says George. Men take pride in being protectors and providers. There’s joy in knowing that your family is thriving because of your efforts right? Well, in the case of the single mom, she has been the protector and provider all along. The truth is, she may really not need you at all. If you are not a secure man who sees her strength, she could emasculate you. You could lose friends When I told my family I was dating a single mom, I got instant backlash. What was wrong with me, couldn’t I find some nice young girl to marry? Before long my relationship with them became so strained I started staying away, says John on his experience. Family and friends may subscribe to the prevailing stereotypes around single moms. If you really like her, you may have to cut ties with some of them. Are you ready for that? It would be interesting to know your thoughts on this. Have you dated or are in a relationship with a single mom? What would you tell fellow men out there?